I read this post earlier today and it bothered me quite a bit. It’s troubling that someone whom people look up to is so filled with hate. I say hate because well, she proclaims it on her blog and this post is just additional evidence of her misandry (yes, it exists) so does misogyny.
There could be a battle of statistics here due to several of the pages she sites from the www.bjs.gov (bureau of justice statistics) In one place she rightly comments on the number of female deaths however, the number is gender neutral and doesn’t say who the crimes were committed by. She simply adds due to her own prejudice that they must have been from men. Angie also fails to mention the over 10,000 male deaths to female 3,000 in 2010. That number is also gender neutral. She also ignores gender neutrality in the number regarding sexual assault which in 2010 was high but was also including several factors in the reports (all of these links are in the article).
The statistics are just one part of the story of crime in the country, where thousands of human beings are victimized by a variety of offenders. The guilty party is not on men alone, yes they are a majority of perpetrators but not the over arching predators she makes them out to be.
I also have a problem with the outright, bold faced lies in the article. She made the claim that women are victims of violence by men more than deaths caused by heart disease and car accidents. i thought that to be quite a claim so i did a quick google search and found the CDC: 600,000 deaths of men and women, half of them were men in 2009. Car accidents also in the high hundreds of thousands, all of these things are easily found on the governments websites.
I would agree that there are serious problems with men in power. i believe power corrupts and the system of capitalism only perpetuates that. It seems to me though that it’s the underlying psychology of power and money that drives this instead of men themselves. Does this make all men guilty? no. nor do i defend their actions.
My real frustration of this post is in the final two paragraphs. I continue hearing “shut the fuck up” as if the views of men are no longer welcome about how to make the better world. This better world will be created by humans, not a particular gender. As for the defenders of the criminals, i question who she is talking about and i’d be interested to hear the context of the conversation. In my experience with Angie, a dissenting opinion and questions regarding innocence and guilt were met with insults, attempt at censorship and overall vitriol. She blocked and unfriended me when i commented on the Eliot rodger situation and noted his manifesto spoke to a misanthrope more than a misogynist. I also included that men and women can be violent as the statistics in the articles she sited mention.
Her final paragraph is simply telling men “don’t do this”. Much of it I would call a misunderstanding of human nature and a distaste for skepticism. She also demands that we stop using certain words, okay: don’t use the words “mansplaining, misogynist, dudebro, neck beard, male tears” etc. You can’t control the language nor should you try. I find mansplaining particularly annoying because you’re trying to silence another persons viewpoint instead of having a conversation.
I made a similar post about the “not all men” vs “yes all women” when it cropped up because the need for it was fractally wrong and misguided. There wouldn’t be a society if even most men were criminals. There should not have been this offensive/defensive dynamic between the genders on social media; both are guilty, lets move on.
Everyone had powerful stories, lets continue hearing them.
I acknowledge that bad things happen to everyone, every single person on the planet is trying to survive in their own way. The simple fact is that there are predators in the population and the world can be a dangerous place. Lets try to deal with the adversity we see in more productive ways then saying “type of person X is the worst”
I’ll also add this to the people deliberately being trolls about these various issues on both sides, I’ve seen the hate spewed by men and by women. I asked numerous questions earlier this year and was met with insults, attempts to shame me into silence and general illogical nonsense. Their most potent criticism was my Fedora, which is awesome. Does that make me an MRA? no, I also don’t claim to be. I hold the position that humanism is better in that it addresses both camps issues equally.
To the people she is talking to: stop being fucking assholes, douchebag.